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Anyone who says that we live in some kind of post-homophobic society is a fucking moron.
The problem nowadays is that things are better. Things are better, especially for gay cis males, and so we only pay attention to the good bits, and ignoring the bad is a lot easier. This goes especially for the UK, where by May 2014 the first same-sex marriages will start to be held country-wide.
The problem is the little things. There are still straight males, and a fucking lot of them, who have some insane preconceived notions about homosexuality and its nature, probably taught by their parents, or their friends, who were taught by their parents.
We can’t fix older generations, and in actual fact they’re old enough to fucking know to change their views or gtfo, but what we should be doing is, as Fenrir Greyback would say, “Bite them young”, by which I mean education needs to improve.
I can’t speak for any place outside the UK, although I imagine the situation is even more dire in the US, since they’re still debating whether to teach Creationism as a fact, but in primary and secondary schools in the UK there is minimal to no education about homosexuality. From what I remember of secondary school, homosexuality was met with sniggers and derision, as if it was some kind of taboo subject.
How much better would future generations of children be if we taught them from a young age that homosexuality isn’t wrong? That it’s just as natural as being heterosexual, and that being homosexual shouldn’t be shameful. Not to mention, teaching that being gay isn’t a fucking choice - I was actually asked by someone the other day if it was - and that gay people literally cannot "shove their gayness in your face", it’s their personality, not something you can switch on and off.
But of course, I imagine that if schools in the UK tried to teach the correct attitude to homosexuality there’d be immediate complains. And because many schools are run by straight, cis, white males, most wouldn’t have the balls or the motivation to support such an educational choice. And in America I’d imagine it’d be even worse.
I don’t know if it’s possible, but I think it’s where we should start.